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LCSW-S, Texas, 2025

 

​Kasamahan Nonprofit Director, 2024-Current

NARM Master Therapist, 2023-Current

​​NARM Therapist, 2022-2023

Mindfulscape, PLLC, 2021

Austin Mindfulness Therapist, 2020-2021
BetterHelp Therapist, 2020

Myers-Briggs Practitioner, 2020

LCSW, Texas, 2020

UHS Therapist and Social Worker, 2016-2020

LMSW, Texas, 2016

MS in Social Work, UT Arlington, 2016
MHMR Tarrant County Internship, 2015-2016​
 

BS in Social Work, UT Arlington, 2014
Arlington Life Shelter Internship, 2014
 

International Baccalaureate Graduate, 2009
Arlington High School Graduate, 2009

Hiking in the Texas hill country

Personal Information:

Outside of professional settings, I enjoy being out in nature, painting abstract landscapes, rest, and prioritizing time with my family of origin and family by marriage. In support of destigmatizing mental health care, I would like to share that I have lived personal experience with Complex PTSD and ADHD, and also lend support to loved ones in accessing care.

About Mindfulscape

Mindfulscape (mind·ful·scape) is a private therapy practice and consulting firm, founded on September 2021 in Austin, TX, acknowledged to be on the ancestral homelands of the Plains Tribes, Tonkawa, Comanche, and Lipan Apache Peoples.

The name Mindfulscape is inspired by the mindful exploration and nurturing of internal and external landscapes supported by therapy.

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Mindfulscape Logo
The Mindfulscape logo is in the shape of the Ma character from the pre-colonial Filipino writing system, Baybayin. The logo also depicts green elevation and a body of water on a foggy day outside a window. Elements that are reminiscent of milder hikes in the Texas hill country and the nostalgia of unmined mountains near Manila, Philippines along the Marikina River. Both these hills and mountains have limestone which filter local water sources to where some may appear a shade of blue.

"Ma can be like a container. Malakas siya or they are strong or they contain strength. Maganda siya or they are beautiful or they contain beauty." - Omehra Sigahne

"When I think of Ma, I think of malay meaning to be conscious or aware." - Carl Cervantez

Values

Authenticity and Truth: Nurturing awareness of inner and shared realities to live with greater integrity and agency.

Community Responsibility: Embracing responsibility for the health and strength of chosen relationships and communities.
 

Environmental Conscientiousness: Recognizing personal impact within ecosystems to live more sustainably for future generations.

Frequently Asked Questions

This section is an easy way to review information for potential clients looking to get started.

What’s the difference between psychotherapy and coaching? Psychotherapy is a medical service that provides mental health support, while coaching is non-medical. As a licensed therapist, I can diagnose and provide psychotherapy to clients in Texas, and insurance or medical payment methods can be used for therapy sessions. For clients outside of Texas, I offer coaching, which provides more flexibility in how sessions are structured and the type of educational guidance offered. However, coaching does not include diagnosis or treatment for mental health conditions. If a coaching client requires medical support, I can provide referrals to appropriate providers. — Do you accept insurance for therapy clients? Yes! I understand that using insurance is important for many clients, so I am in-network with most Aetna, Cigna, Optum, and UnitedHealthcare plans through Alma, a HIPAA-compliant service that handles insurance processing and verifies your out-of-pocket costs. That said, I always recommend checking with your insurance provider directly to confirm coverage and any potential costs. — What if you don’t accept my insurance? If I am out-of-network with your insurance, you may still be able to receive reimbursement for therapy sessions by submitting a Superbill, which I can provide after each appointment. I recommend calling your insurance provider to learn about your out-of-network benefits before reaching out. — Can I pay privately without using insurance? Yes. If you prefer to pay out-of-pocket, my rates are: $160 for a 60-minute session $120 for a 45-minute session If we're meeting for psychotherapy, you may also use an HSA (Health Savings Account) or HRA (Health Reimbursement Account), even if you’re not using insurance. — Do you offer virtual or in-person sessions? I provide virtual sessions through HIPAA-compliant Zoom. After working in an office from 2020 to 2024, I transitioned my practice fully online. Clients and I have found that virtual therapy offers greater flexibility without compromising the quality of care. — Can I communicate with you between sessions, like on online therapy platforms? Yes, I offer secure messaging between sessions through my client portal, powered by SimplePractice (a HIPAA-compliant platform). With your consent, I can also communicate via email or text, though these may carry privacy risks. If extended communication is needed, I’ll gently guide you toward scheduling an appointment or accessing additional resources. — How often will we meet for sessions? This depends on your needs, which we will discuss during the intake session. Typically, starting with weekly or bi-weekly sessions helps establish a strong foundation. I always check in at the end of each session to adjust the schedule based on what’s best for you. — How do I get started? You can contact via my website or email me directly at elizajade@mindfulscape.com to set up a free 20 minute Zoom consultation. If we’re a good fit and need more time, we can transition into an intake session or schedule one for later. — What if I’m a former client and want to restart? You’re always welcome to reach out. I understand that life and health can change unexpectedly, and I value the importance of continuity in care. Contact me to discuss the process with restarting.

Mental Health Information | Table of Contents

This is a space where I will share my acquired knowledge with a more objective voice through writing. Please note that this is not meant to be comprehensive so I always recommend reviewing multiple mental health sources. Mental health is highly complex, multilayered, and multidimensional with a person's biology, psychology, relationships (biopsychosocial) intertwined. None of this information is meant to diagnose as diagnosing can only occur with meeting with a licensed mental health provider. 

Information from other sources
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What is therapy?

Therapy also known as "psychotherapy" or "talk therapy" is a safe and confidential space to address mental health challenges and symptoms through speaking and collaborating with a licensed psychotherapist. A psychotherapist differs from a psychiatrist or psychiatric mental health provider such as a nurse practitioner or physician's assistant in that the psychotherapist typically does not perscribe medications or medical testing, and instead focuses your time with them in processing and understanding through conversation, and identifying holistic and comprehensive ways that are realistic based on your lifestyle and preferences to improve challenges and symptoms between appointments. With a full hour typically once a week or once every two weeks, there is more space to go in-depth into challenges and symptoms in an appointment with a psychotherapist that is not what is typical with other medical providers.
 

What is NARM Therapy?
Reviewed: 2/2025, in continued review as NARM is a complex model.

At Mindfulscape, along with cognitive behavioral therapy which is the standard therapy for addressing mental health by a master's level clinician, I also provide NARM (NeuroAffective Relational Model) therapy. The training is recognized as continuing education by the ASWB (Association of Social Work Boards). This information is from my experiences and my understanding from the training I have received and not on behalf of those who own and continue to develop the model. NARM was specifically designed as a trauma-informed model or a model to address co-occurring or underlying complex trauma. I consider NARM as a blend of depth psychology, relational therapy, somatic therapy, and mindfulness-based therapy. NARM therapy is still delivered through speaking, but incorporates interventions to bring awareness and therefore shift largely unconscious patterns that support challenges and symptoms that get in the way of a person's healing and growth. ​ NARM starts through "contracting" which is a process of identifying between client and therapist what the client most wants for themselves or what they would like to deeply experience from therapy or in life in general. This is also a process of receiving consent from a client with the shifting of unconscious patterns, prioritizes the client's agency or understanding to drive decisions in therapy, and aligns therapy towards health and growth rather than pathology or illness. Once the client and therapist receive clarity on their contract or intention at the beginning of a session, the therapist then goes into "inquiry" or asking questions from the client's awareness what may be getting in the way of what they want and what may support them. In this process, a therapist will make note of present contradictions or support the client to improve their awareness of what they are noticing. The therapist does so by "threading" or showing the linear steps or progression the client has made, and supporting curiosity with a step or progression that seems contradictory. Highlighting this area brings the client to a deep internal conflict, an impossible bind they likely have been managing since childhood when the complex trauma or Complex PTSD developed. In encountering this as an adult and being aware of their adult consciousness, the client can then realize they have more capacity than they did when they were a child to "hold both sides", find a balance rather than be in conflict with both sides, or with agency decide which side or experience they most deeply want for themselves, and perhaps most supportive for healing and growth. Usually experiences or states that are conducive to healing and growth is accessing experiences of love, compassion, fulfillment, joy, energy, acceptance. Sometimes clients may need to process or experience grief in order to connect to these healing and growth states. Processing grief may involve recognizing their loss of agency and processing the impossible or complex trauma they experienced as a child. Throughout the process clients may connect with experiences outside of their familiar states born from trauma and closer to what they want which the NARM therapist supports the client to recognize and integrate through reflecting back somatic shifts they observe. "I notice that you took a sigh when you said that, can you share what you may have experienced in that moment?" Experiencing through the body supports experiential learning or learning directly for the client which may deepen their understanding more than learning cognitively or primarily through their thoughts. Consider lectures versus hands on learning or learning on the job or in real time as opposed to learning to apply information later.

Diagnosing

Mental health diagnosing versus no diagnosis
Reviewed: 12/2024

You may need mental health care with a mental health diagnosis through meeting with a licensed mental health provider for an appointment if your symptoms affect daily functioning for a period of time where it significantly affects your health and quality of life.


Daily Functioning includes:
Sleep

Appetite

Hygiene

Ability to maintain chosen responsibilities or work

You and your provider may refer to the latest DSM (Diagnostic Statistical Manual) or ICD (International Statistical Classification of Diseases and Related Health Problems) for more detailed information.

Since mental health diagnosing largely relies on self-report and perception can change through time, it is important to have a longer term licensed mental health provider that sees you through life transitions, and to also seek a second or third opinion from another licensed mental health provider.

A diagnosis may be discontinued, updated, or changed by a licensed mental health provider at any time with evidence that you meet criteria for discontinuation or change in diagnosis. Consensus between licensed active providers (met with within 6 months) can better support a diagnosis.

Neurodiversity

ADHD involves dopamine and norepinephrine pathing and this being a primary factor with challenges involving motivation and productivity that cause significant issues in daily functioning. Due to the biological makeup of ADHD, symptoms must be present in childhood. There are many cases when symptoms are present but were not recognized potentially due to lack of ADHD symptom awareness from caregivers and educators or due to other co-occurring issues that may obscure these symptoms ranging from anxiety, depression, aggressive behavior, or challenging environmental issues with family and peers taking the focus away or even Giftedness or exceptional abilities compensating for struggles with ADHD. In these cases, clients or patients may not receive a diagnosis until these are resolved or differentiated which may not occur until adulthood. Through therapy, adults may reprocess experiences in childhood with consideration of their ADHD symptoms. You may notice someone with ADHD having extended or unpredictable periods of time with decreased or increased motivation and productivity that is in consistent conflict of what is required of them in their work and responsibilities leading to common labels of "lazy", "unambitious", "self-centered", and "undisciplined". Adding to this misunderstanding, they may have uncommon motivation and productivity or the ability to "hyperfocus" on activities or projects they personally enjoy due to their differences in dopamine and norepinephrine pathing. To support them in these extended or unpredictable states involving motivation and productivity that lead to difficulty completing projects and time management, people with ADHD may require medication to regulate, extra assistance or understanding from professors, bosses, family members, friends with deadlines and time management, and/or acceptance of significant changes in lifestyle that allow for their natural shifts and states. A person considered predominantly hyperactive type may be more sensitive to external, tactile information while those with predominantly inattentive type may be more focused inward with their internal experiences. I sometimes consider inattentive type, internal hyperactivity. Inattentive types may be those who may overdo activities that require less physical exertion that allow them to channel their internal hyperactivity rather than push past it. This may involve many hours playing video games, scrolling online, or deep in personal reflections or daydreams. Those with hyperactive type may have difficulty sitting for extended periods of time, need a certain amount of physical activity daily to "expel excess energy" or have careers that implement the physical which allows them to go with their hyperactive state. All these activities must be considered detrimental to basic daily functioning and following through such as difficulties with maintaining their homes, jobs, and relationships to where it harms their health and wellbeing to be considered a disorder.

Giftedness is a neurological difference usually recognized through psychological testing from licensed psychologists or through consistent reports of advanced cognitive ability from multiple sources starting at a young age from peers, caretakers, teachers, and mentors. Giftedness is a difference in the way one perceives and experiences facets of life that may or may not be expressed through external accomplishments. A gifted person is highly perceptive and insightful across multiple domains, but may only be readily visible to others or expressed in a specific area of work or study. Qualities that may indicate giftedness: rapid learning and processing of information, complex and abstract thinking and therefore an ability to see or experience what others may not, an inherent intensity, excitement or high energy, and pleasure in learning, less concerned by performance, usually learns for the sake of learning, persistent curiosity that challenges the norm that calls them to learn beyond what is taught, may be innovative and entrepreneurial, usually has a wide range of interests and expertise beyond what is required, divergent thinking and “skip thinking” or arriving to conclusions that are correct or valuable without needing a concrete or linear process, creative thinking and strong intuition, high observation skills and excellent memory in general and in particular with what interests them to learn, depth of feeling and understanding and therefore may be more sensitive to information. Those who are gifted and do not recognize it may struggle with self-criticism for their intensity and drive to learn and may be considered “too intense” when their insights and depth of experiencing are not shared by others. Autism differs in that those who are solely gifted do not struggle with social cues or understanding the experience of others. A gifted person usually has a keen understanding of multiple, co-occurring experiences and as a result are highly empathetic if they do not have other co-occurring neurological or mental health struggles, and have a strong sense of justice, but may struggle socially due to their needs for depth not being met or held by those around them. The gifted person may then be prone to isolating themselves or only having a select few they can authentically connect with since giftedness is neurologically divergent and uncommon. They may struggle with mundane and tedious work that looks similar to someone with ADHD and may be differentiated by their ability to excel when provided more complex and creative work. They may also struggle with prolonged office politics or compartmentalizing and simplifying experiences with others for the sake of external function. These may limit the gifted person in a work place from reaching roles that are better suited for their internal landscape. If the gifted person is not accepting of their inherent qualities, they may also be critical of others in mistaking limited capacity for disregard or even negative intent. In these ways, it may be important for the gifted person to recognize and accept their giftedness to support their sense of self, relationships, and quality of life. Giftedness may also be masked by other disadvantages or conditions that are internal such as co-occurring ADHD, autism, learning disorders, depression, anxiety, substance abuse and also those that are external through a limited access to resources, gifted peers and adults who can recognize their giftedness, normalize their experience, and also support their potential and growth.

Depression and Mood Disorders

Major Depressive Disorder is when depression or an episode of depression meets criteria as a mental health disorder or causes significant disruption in daily functioning. Depression that meets criteria for a mental health disorder is usually ego dystonic meaning people usually notice as it occurs since the symptoms of it is easily separated from their perceptions of themselves. Many people often seek therapy and mental health care starting with an episode of depression and/or anxiety as a result, but often continue with therapy to address and work through underlying or co-occurring issues that were ego syntonic prior to therapy or was seen as inseparable to self that may have contributed to the occurrence of a depressive episode or fuels persistent anxiety. Not all depression is the same underneath the surface. You may have heard the term "situational" depression and this is when the experience of depression is considered an ongoing reaction from an external loss or challenging situation, and the person is able to not personalize this loss or challenge. Diagnosing MDD is more common when a person is stuck in a cycle of blaming themselves for an external situation and then their depression persists and contributes, maintains, and worsens their external circumstance. Usually those with underlying Complex PTSD or complex trauma are more susceptible to going into this cycle. The persistent self-criticism or self-attack can then lead to experiencing hopelessness, feeling like a failure to themselves and others, even more decreased energy due to preoccupation with this, and eventual desire to escape this experience within oneself which can then develop into suicial ideation and planned action. Therapists and mental health crisis workers are trained in suicide risk prevention or assessing if a person's suicidal thoughts have progressed to where they can be an imminent danger to themselves, and may require them to admit to a hospital for mental health stabilization sometimes with the support of family and/or law enforcement if the person has progressed to be unable to make life-supporting decisions for themselves. Depression even when not involving suicidal thoughts with a high risk of suicide can be compounding and multifaceted and may still need the support of a skilled therapist providing consistent sessions and potentially a psychiatric medicine provider to undo the negative, life draining cycle of depression and reconnect with a will to live in order to heal, maintain their health, and grow.

Bipolar and Mood Disorders with Mania
Reviewed: 12/2024
Bipolar Type I vs II pdf information

Mood Disorder Questionnaire (MDQ)

Bipolar disorders and mood disorders with mania are diagnosed when episodes of elevated mood significantly affect someone's daily functioning. Out of different variations of mood disorders, bipolar disorder with its two distinct types: I and II are more commonly and easily recognized, diagnosed, and treated. Type I is typically considered more severe due to one or more manic episodes being present for this diagnosis versus hypomania for Type II even if there are more occurrences of hypomania than mania in someone's lifetime. Hypo - means less, hyper - means more. Hypomania may both be more manageable or less impactful than mania allowing someone with Bipolar II to sometimes go undiagnosed or tolerate the symptoms as to not require medical treatment, and focus on reducing the impact of symptoms through holistic coping mechanisms and lifestyle changes. Someone may be having a full manic episode which is the severe version of a hypomanic episode when they are not sleeping or sleeping for a few hours at night for days at a time while having unusually high levels of energy, significantly elevated mood, increased activity with little or no experience of fatigue. This lack of sleep can factor into another symptom of mania which is delusional thinking or thoughts that they are not aware of as not being grounded in reality. In believing their delusional thinking is real they may act according to their delusion. For example, someone who is experiencing grandiosity may spend more money than they typically spend and in a way that has a significant impact on their finances out of their thoughts of the amount as not as significant or in the false belief that they can recover this amount of money quickly. Other examples are starting large projects than what the person may have realistic resources for, taking big risks with their work and profession which may involve suddenly quitting, switching, or adding onto their work, suddenly changing their living situation such as moving without adequate planning, and sudden changes in their stable and longterm relationships such as seeking divorce or engaging in affairs without concern for the consequences or changes that follow. This risk taking when during a manic episode is fueled by manic delusional thinking or an internal orientation of themselves and their lives affected by elevated mood and grandiosity rather than compulsion or through calculated risk. The manic episode may progress to have more severe psychotic symptoms such as more severe delusional thinking including belief they have god like powers, being invincible, or being actively targetted by entities. The severe delusional thoughts can progress to hallucinations or seeing, hearing, experiencing something that is not objectively there. The more severe the symptoms, the more the person can be at risk of acting in a way that puts themselves or others in danger or lead to severe decompensation where they cannot care for their daily needs where they may be involuntarily admitted for hospitalization. Therapy for bipolar I is typically about prevention and maintenance to prevent the reoccurrence of a manic episode such as through supporting a person to take medication that is perscribed by a medication perscriber for mood stability through processing effects and side effects, supporting a medication change when needed, and supporting them to lead a more balanaced lifestyle that promotes sleep hygiene and mood regulation. If symptoms start to reoccur, the therapist may act as the first responder for the client in obtaining a higher level of care as needed for stabilization or reduction of hypomanic and manic symptoms. Therapy can also support someone with either bipolar I or bipolar II to have a healthy separation or distance from their episodes and these states of elevated mood to further understand themselves and bring awareness of when symptoms reoccur. Without a mood stabilizer, someone with a diagnosis of bipolar I can experience a manic episode without a trigger, and it is possible for bipolar II or hypomania to progress into bipolar I mania without having a known cause. The first episode of mania may be more related or affected by severe stress and typically occurs during one's formative years which can be through someone's middle 20s which activates someone's genetic predisposition for the disorder. There are some cases where there is a late onset. It is possible for someone to have a single episode of mania, but often the risks with safety with reoccurrence is too significant that someone is typically advised to start taking medication even after one episode. It is common for someone with Bipolar I to not accept or treat their disorder to prevent episodes until after the second episode or a rehospitalization. Often people who have experienced a drastic change in themselves that cause a severe negative effect for themselves and others may experience reoccurring shame and complex trauma. The therapist can then provide trauma-informed therapy to support the person recovering from an episode of mania to regain a healthy and realistic sense of self, repair and improve their relationships, and regain stability in their finances and work. Often hypomania is not seen as the primary problem by a person with bipolar II but rather the drop in mood that can meet criteria for depression that typically follows a hypomanic episode. The more drastic swings in mood that is not shared by those without bipolar can also affect the person with bipolar II's mental health through difficulties with perception of themselves and in trusting themselves in maintaining mood and energy that is required to maintain their quality of life.

Anxiety

I have found generalized anxiety disorder (gad) tends to be a catchall for those who experience persistent anxiety with anxious thoughts and nervous system dysregulation most days of the week for at least a six month period as an adult, and the risk for reocurrence of this is high. The nature of this anxiety is not or cannot be specified and is general to different life areas or "about a number of events or activities" such as within personal relationships and experiences related to personal and community responsibilities eg. school and work. This diagnosis focuses more on sympotomology than the root cause of the anxiety, but can still be a useful tool for tracking worsening or improvement of underlying cause of the general anxiety. I tend to diagnose Other specified anxiety disorder when a client or patient does not experience general anxiety more than half the days and is closer to less than half the days and specify this. I have found it is uncommon for someone to only be anxious about a specific area in their life, and when this is the case, I diagnose accordingly and consider the presence of OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder) to target specific life areas or activities of daily living that increase symptomology. For anyone who reports persistent and life restricting anxiety to where it affects their daily functioning, I also consider the co-occurrence or underlying presence of complex trauma and Complex PTSD. At times it may be more important to focus and treat more severe symptoms of a person's anxiety to where they receive a different diagnosis during treatment such as PTSD, an eating disorder diagnosis, and/or a substance abuse diagnosis to receive more specialized or increased medical care.

Trauma

Complex PTSD or Other Reactions to Severe Stress
Reviewed: 12/2024

ICD-11 Complex PTSD Article

CDC ACEs Information

Complex PTSD is complex trauma with PTSD. Complex trauma develops when there is prolonged exposure to traumatic events or events that lead to prolonged nervous system activation to where they start to develop largely subconscious automatic responses when reminded of these events to help manage their nervous system. Someone is more at risk for trauma when they are not able to process psychologically and biologically what has occurred to them. The trauma responses that occur may be visible through the ways the person with complex trauma displays persistent dysregulated emotions, difficulties in their relationships, and daily functioning due to their internal experiences of themselves, others, and the world around them which lead to reduced functioning and quality of life. PTSD (more below) is when someone experiences life threatening or violent traumatic events directly upon their person or indirectly through their environment or through a relationship that is commonly significant. Beyond the more extreme cases of violence, abuse, or neglect, it may be difficult to distinguish when complex trauma crosses over to Complex PTSD and may even be used interchangeably. Whether the traumatic event was experienced as life threatening is similar to reporting pain. It is largely subjective. Someone is more prone to developing complex trauma and/or Complex PTSD from traumatic events during their formative years or during childhood through adolescence when people are more vulnerable and when trauma events are not as easily recognizable and processed. An inventory of ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences) may be a good starting point to help someone recognize that "normal" events in their childhood may have been adverse and traumatic. Due to the comorbidity of personality disorders and Complex PTSD, disordered personality traits may be another way to recognize and work through trauma that has occurred in one's formative years. Currently, the DSM does not recognize Complex PTSD as a formal diagnosis. I may use "Other Reactions to Severe Stress" or even "Generalized Anxiety Disorder" to indicate the presence of symptoms that may stem from complex trauma or PTSD if it is a more severe case of Complex PTSD.

Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
Reviewed: 2/2025


DSM-5 Criteria for PTSD

PTSD or post traumatic stress disorder is when an individual experiences a life threatening experience to where it severely impacts their health through their nervous system and brain functioning. The effects of this impact is experienced by the individual through their psychology for months that follow to where PTSD is upgraded from acute stress disorder. Impacts to a person's psychology is noticeable by the person through flashbacks, recurring nightmares of the event, heightened sensitivity and paranoia of stimuli could be places and people that remind the person of the life threatening event and identified causes of it. The person then has significantly reduced daily functioning particularly through sleep disruption and ability to show up in the world including in their relationships and their chosen responsibilities affecting their ability to obtain resources and safety for themselves, and reduced health outcomes. Someone with PTSD may not consider their PTSD complex due to the singular and shocking source of their trauma that is more ego dystonic or easily separable from their sense of self. They may however struggle to notice the effects on their psychology of how they experience others and the world around them.

Personality Disorders

Borderline Personality Disorder

Reviewed: 2/2025

Article with DSM 5 criteria

People with borderline personality traits or meet criteria for borderline personality disorder experience extreme distress and anxiety in their relationships to where it often leads to threats of or actual self-harming behaviors. Often the distress stems from the real or perceived threats of relationship loss. It's common for people suffering from bpd to be able to clearly point to relationship trauma from their developmental years with a primary caregiver or someone crucial to their emotional wellbeing as a child or adolescent. As with many cases of complex trauma, someone with bpd may even be prone to finding and wanting to keep relationships with those with more avoidant attachment as a sort of re-enactment. Due to the nature of this disorder, people with bpd have a pattern of unstable relationships that only further retraumatize them well into adulthood. From experience, people with bpd or bpd traits are highly sensitive and tuned into their relationships and can even be perceived as very warm and self-sacrificing. This said, tuning into the relationship does not always mean the person with bpd is tuning into the person they are in a relationship with or tuning into themselves in their relationship experiences. In being preoccupied with reducing distress and avoiding pain from loss, they often struggle to have the capacity to be present to the actual needs for wellbeing for themselves individually and the other person. This can lead to as mentioned earlier self-harming behaviors and even harmful behaviors towards the other person sometimes consciously and unconsciously to manipulate the other person to maintain the relationship to manage the person with bpd's internal emotional state. The other person can experience an immense amount of pressure to stay in the relationship even when it is no longer healthy or right for them, and the person with bpd can experience a sense of being in survival mode in the relationship rather than feeling truly safe and secure within it. Trauma-informed, relational and experiential therapy can be helpful along with skills-based behavioral therapy such as dialectical behavioral therapy are common ways to support someone with bpd. With enough corrective experiences of appreciating calmer and stable relationships, and learning to connect with their own agency in feeling secure, someone can reduce the effects and traits of bpd to where they no longer meet criteria.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Reviewed: 12/2024
Article with DSM 5 criteria

Narcissistic moments or even traits are common. Rarely does someone meet the criteria to be diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (npd) and diagnosed due to the stigma, but it's important to recognize the possibility of traits especially since self-awareness is important in treating personality disorders. It may be also easier to accept the presence of npd when it is considered treatable which I promote through my work. When working with npd or narcissistic traits directly with a client or indirectly with someone in their life, I consider the presence of unaddressed Complex PTSD specifically developmental trauma. For someone to have a potential diagnosis of npd they must be an adult developmentally, and they may be an adult that experienced trauma with their primary caregivers and support system growing up. Due to this trauma, they may have formed disordered personality traits as a way to survive their upbringing. Although harmful in adulthood, these traits and survival strategies may have been necessary to have their basic needs met, and not suffer from neglect and abuse within their family of origin. In the adult with npd, I look out for consistent lack of self-awareness or accuracy in self-perception when engaging in narcissistic behaviors and therefore inability to self correct or adjust which leads to those around them needing to correct or adjust for them to reduce harm. This may turn into persistent disagreements when with others and further manifest into difficulty in improving and maintaining relationships throughout life. There is also a lack of empathy or ability to hold both theirs and others' experiences at the same time which may lead to all or nothing thinking, ie. "I'm good, you're bad" / "you're all to blame" or "I'm bad, you're good" / "I'm all to blame" which does not allow for satisfying resolutions with win-win situations or bonding over a shared loss. Regarding the characterstics of overt and covert narcisissm, both consistently overestimate their importance in others' lives and experiences which fuels their preoccupation with their appearance and effect over others. Covert does not mean the person is intentionally keeping their narcissistic traits hidden because to meet criteria for npd this often requires lack of awareness of having these traits. The label of covert more has to do with the perception of the person with npd of themselves as being special but in a negative way which inadvertently keeps this feeling of special hidden. For overt, the person with npd also believes they are special but in a positive way. Someone with covert may consume a lot of a group's time and energy in tending to the covert narcissist's perceived flaws and failures. They may need so much reassurance that it creates a significant amount of stress for the group and this occurs repeatedly until it affects the health of the people in the relationships. The overt narcissism may consume just as much time and resources but perhaps spread across more people with the belief that their positive qualities are deserving of being the center of attention; expanding over others' experiences rather than collapsing the experiences of others into them. They may be quick to point out their "good" deeds and how they deserve credit, putting pressure on others to recognize them. This is the typical way someone appears narcissistic or with overinflated personal importance to others.  Fortunately since lack of self-awareness is a key part of the disorder, when someone develops self-awareness including awareness of their npd traits and therefore able to self-regulate, the diagnosis may be discontinued with the traits no longer severely impacting their functioning and those of others. This self-awareness can be developed through longer term therapy treating underlying Complex PTSD. Self-awareness may look like noticing the trauma response of dominating a situation and choosing to refocus some of the energy on the overall experience of the group or others with them. This may look like noticing when they are feeling rage and anxiety in "everyone dismissing them" (more overt) or depressed and anxious in "everyone criticizing them" (more covert). Self-regulation may be to practice being present with other information that adds complexity to their default experiences and that supports a sense of security even when in fact dismissed or judged.

Book Recommendations

Some books on my office bookshelf that I continue to refer to and reflect on to inform my work.

The Creative Act

The Creative Act: A Way of Being
By Rick Rubin

Simple and complex words of wisdom
to nurture inner creativity from someone who nurtures
musical and artistic talent in a corporate world.

Restoring the Kinship Worldview

Restoring the Kinship Worldview
By Wahinkpe Topa (Four Arrows) and Darcia Narvaez, PhD

Indigenous wisdom that goes beyond survival
and into thriving in our communities.

A view that challenges capatilistic societal norms.

Healing Developmental Trauma Laurence Heller, Aline LaPierre

Healing Developmental Trauma
By Laurence Heller, PhD and Aline LaPierre

Foundational for the NeuroAffective
Relational Model (NARM).

Provides language and concepts to
address and treat Complex PTSD

Healing Developmental Trauma Brad Kammer, Laurence Heller

The Practical Guide For
Healing Developmental Trauma 

By Laurence Heller, PhD and Brad J. Kammer, LMFT

Practical information on 
NeuroAffective
Relational Model (NARM)

Co-authored by NARM faculty
F
ocuses on the treatment of Complex PTSD

The Myth of Normal Gabor Mate

The Myth of Normal
By Gabor Mate, MD

Complex PTSD expert shares how diagnosing
is influenced by trauma and societal views.

Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder: A Handbook for Diagnosis and Treatment  Russel A. Barkley

Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder: A Handbook for Diagnosis and Treatment 
Russel A. Barkley

Very comprehensive information on ADHD
diagnosis and treatment, adhering to medical care.

Brown Skin White Minds EJR David

Brown Skin, White Minds
By E. J. R. David, PhD

Significant work on decolonization for Filipino Americans
Provides an outline on Filipino colonial mentality

Coming Full Circle Leny Strobel

Coming Full Circle
By Leny Mendoza Strobel, PhD

Lived experience and consideration of Filipino American
decolonization and returnig to authentic self

Women Who Run with Wolves Clarissa Pinkola Estes

Women Who Run with the Wolves
By Clarissa Pinkola Estes, PhD

Weaves in Jungian anaylsis and mythology to support women to connect with their wild, natural, and full selves.

Podcast Recommendations

Hidden Brain Shankar Vedantam

Hidden Brain
By Shankar Vedantam
Links Here

Well produced psychology podcast with real life stories

Huberman Lab Andrew Huberman

Huberman Lab
By Andrew Huberman
Links Here

In-depth but accessible information on neuroscience

The Psychology Podcast Scott Barry Kaufman

The Psychology Podcast
By Scott Barry Kaufman
Links Here

Interviews have themes of creativity and self-actualization.

Transforming Trauma Emily Ruth NARM Therapy

Transforming Trauma Podcast
By The NARM Training Institute
Links Here

Contact Me

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Tuesdays - Thursdays: 11am - 8pm

 

I am fully virtual and provide telehealth over HIPAA compliant Zoom.

For therapy and mental healthcare: I accept most Aetna, Cigna, Optum, United Healthcare plans and provide superbills for those insured with out-of-network benefits. I also accept HSAs and HRAs.

 

Appointments are $160 per 60 mins or $120 per 45 min out-of-pocket without insurance support.

Contact me below to schedule a free 20 minute consultation call over Zoom to learn more prior to scheduling a full appointment.

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